The first day of school is an exciting yet nerve-wracking milestone for both parents and kids. For many kids, it could be the first time that they are separated from their parents for so many hours, let alone the brand new environment and the new faces. It is usually an easier transition when it is not an only child or the firstborn since they would know the concept of a school from their older siblings. As a parent, you want to ensure that your child is well-prepared and confident for this new chapter in their life. To make the transition smoother and more enjoyable, here are some valuable tips for parents and kids before that significant first day in school:
1. Visit the School Together: Before the first day, if possible, take the opportunity to visit the school with your child. Familiarize them with the surroundings, including classrooms, playgrounds, and other facilities. This visit will help alleviate their anxieties about the unknown, making them more comfortable when the actual day arrives.
2. Establish a Routine: Start implementing a daily routine a week or two before school begins. Adjusting to a set schedule for sleeping, eating, and studying will ease the shock of early mornings once school starts. Consistency and predictability can greatly contribute to a positive start. Going from a carefree life where all you do is play to a “school routine”, can be really hard to adjust to for many kids.
3. Meet the Teacher: Attend any orientation sessions or meet-and-greet events where your child can meet their new teacher. Building a rapport with the teacher early on fosters a sense of security and trust for your child. It also allows you to discuss any specific concerns or considerations the teacher should be aware of. A good teacher-student relationship can be a key factor for the educational future of your child.
4. Share Positive School Experiences: Talk about your own positive experiences at school or share stories of other family members or friends who enjoyed their school days. This will help create a positive association with the school in your child’s mind and dispel any negative thoughts they might have.
5. Encourage Independence: Teach your child basic self-help skills, such as using the restroom, washing hands, and putting on their shoes. Encouraging independence will boost their confidence and reduce their reliance on you during school hours.
6. Prepare School Supplies Together: Involve your child in selecting and preparing their school supplies. Let them choose their backpack, pencil case, and other materials. This sense of ownership will make them feel more excited and responsible for their school journey.
7. Organize Playdates: If possible, arrange playdates with other children who will be attending the same school. Familiar faces on the first day can make a world of difference in helping your child feel at ease.
8. Practice the Journey: If your child will be walking or taking the bus to school, practice the route together a few times. This way, your child will become more comfortable with the journey, and you can identify any potential challenges to address beforehand.
9. Discuss Emotions: Talk to your child about their feelings and reassure them that it’s normal to feel a mix of excitement and nervousness. Offer a listening ear and be open to discuss any worries they may have.
10. Keep the Farewell Short and Sweet: On the first day, it’s essential to stay positive and upbeat during drop-off. Keep the farewell brief, and avoid lingering, as this may increase separation anxiety. Trust that the school staff will take good care of your child. It is normal for parents to also experience separation anxiety, but crying and hugging your child for 10 minutes outside of the school will only make things worse for both of you.
11. Plan a Special After-School Activity: To celebrate their first day, plan a special after-school activity your child will look forward to. Whether it’s a favorite meal, a trip to the park, or playing a game together, this will give them something positive to anticipate at the end of the school day and you can also use this time to talk about how the first day was and discuss emotions around it.
Remember, the first day of school is a significant milestone, but with proper preparation and support, it can be an exciting and rewarding experience for both parents and kids. Stay patient and understanding as your child adjusts to this new routine, and watch them flourish in their educational journey. A good attitude towards school and education can have a significant influence on your child’s future. Wishing all parents and kids a fantastic start to the school year!
Konstantina Antiochou-Plexida, SLP